Why I Will Never Wait to Grow Feelings for Someone Ever Again.

I learned an extremely valuable lesson from the last man I dated. Something I will carry with me always as a single woman, and I am sure it will save a lot of men from heartache. I met “Mark” we will call him, two months ago. I used the infamous Tinder dating app in meeting him. He seemed like a nice guy so I agreed to go out for dinner one night.

Right from the start, Mark spoiled me, treating me to a 100 dollar steak dinner on just the first date. He met me there with flowers. I thought it was so chivalrous and sweet.

But I knew right there on the first date — my feelings weren’t that strong, but I was hoping they would grow. Praying-at one point even! He treated me like a queen. I knew I wasn’t that attracted to him looks-wise or personality-wise, but I felt I should give him a shot. Why? Because he treated me SO. GOOD. He wined and dined me, bought me gifts, adored me, listened to me when I was upset, was emotionally supportive, was sweet to my little girl, complimented me, and even helped me a little financially at times. Good god, he made it hard to leave. Especially during Christmas time when I was struggling as a single mom with no child support. And as I have written several times on this blog, how a man treats you is super important.