Wanting What’s No Longer Available

I’ve noticed a trend in the men who are part of the online dating community. Or maybe just the dating community in general?

They become really, really interested in you once you are — taken. It’s so silly! This has happened to me numerous times! I finally settle on someone, and then BAM Brad who blew me off 6 months ago suddenly can’t wait another second to see me.

What is with these guys?! I really don’t get it. I mean is it really about just wanting what you can’t have or is it more pure coincidence? Or is there just something primal in we humans that makes us value things/people only when we see other people value it/them? If that’s true, it’s really stupid.

We should be able to make up our own minds about things outside of what anyone else thinks. That should be the case. But it’s often not.

There’s this guy. “Josh” I'll call him, whom since I’ve gotten engaged, won’t leave me alone! And yall, I KNOW he knows I’m engaged. It’s all over my social media, which he’s on.

I get random “hey” or a “how’s life” every few months. He’s done this on my Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram. I only ever went on ONE lunch date with him?! And to be honest, it wasn’t even amazing. I mean it wasn't’ awful or anything like that. It was just your average mostly awkward first date. We talked and ate…