I have been researching a lot lately about the differences between passionate and companionate love. I find it interesting and encouraging that most articles I read encourage and even say companionate love is better in many ways.
I have been with my partner for almost 4 years now. It’s the longest I have ever been with anyone. Before I met him I dated a lot and was immersed in the online dating community. I think if I am honest with myself, I became somewhat addicted to the rollercoaster of online dating.
There were a lot of highs and lows. Lots of drama. I often would be talking to 2–4 men at the same time. I’ll admit, I liked the attention. It kept life exciting. Though I complained often to my friends and family, about how most of the men ended up being a disappointment, I couldn't seem to stop. Holding out that one day I would finally find my Mr. Right and settle down.
Well — I did, finally. After about 5 years and what seemed to feel like forever at the time. We dated for two years before he proposed. We’ve been married for only 3 short months and already I can feel a little pull to companionate love. I must admit it has freaked me out a little. It’s the sort of love I’m not used to. But I love my husband and I want our marriage to last forever. I have been divorced once before and do not want to go through that again. I want…
